publications
The Refinery
Anal Foreplay Ideas
Anal sex is low-key very high maintenance. In theory, all you have to do is put a penis or object into someone’s anus — but that doesn’t always go smoothly, literally and figuratively. Read More…
The Refinery
Best Outdoor Sex Positions
Outdoor sex isn’t just for through-hikers on the Appalachian Trail or teenagers trying to find a place to hook up away from their parents — having sex outside can be exhilarating and wild for lots of couples. Read More…
The Refinery
Rabbit Vibrator Adult Sex Toys
You can’t really have a conversation about Rabbit vibrators without some mention of Sex and the City, because the iconic sex toy made its debut in a 1998 episode, cleverly titled “The Turtle and the Hare.” Read More…
The Refinery
How to Tell your Partner you have an STI
Early on in relationships, it can feel like you have to be careful and strategic about what information to divulge to your partner and when. This is particularly true when it comes to sexual health… Read More…
AARP
Stress Affects Sex Life
Sex is a stress reliever — it increases endorphins and can lower your blood pressure. Does too much stress ruin your love life? It’s entirely possible. Stress produces the hormone cortisol, which can weaken your sex drive. Read More…
Pain Medicine
Sex Lives Often Derailed by Chronic Pain and Its Treatments
Sex is arguably the most powerful human drive, and it is of central importance in spousal relations. However, outside the world of commerce, sex generally is considered to be a private matter, and often one of embarrassment or some combination thereof. Read More…
Thought Catalog
10 Tips To Upgrade Your Sex Life (That Actually Work)
As a Certified Sex Therapist, I work with individuals and couples in therapy. I have worked with people who have been dating a few months, to couples who have been married for 50 years. Read More…
AOL
Jazz Jennings becomes new face of Clean & Clear
This is natural beauty at its finest. Clean & Clear named 14-year-old transgender teen advocate Jazz Jennings the face of a new ad campaign “See the Real Me.” The campaign will obviously promote skin care products but also doubles as a call-to-action series driven by social media, asking people to send in personal stories using the hashtag #SeeTheRealMe to promote natural beauty.
GlamourUK
Alfresco Sex
Duvet groans on Love Island, lap dances on Ryanair, the couple on trial for devouring more than a pepperoni sausage on a Domino’s pizza counter. Read More…
Best Life Online
11 Easy Ways To Make Her Feel Extra Special—Tonight
While there’s nothing wrong with grand romantic gestures, a surprise trip to Turks and Caicos requires a lot more time, money, and effort than a few things that you can do this very evening that will make her feel special, respected, considered, and loved. Below are eleven such things. Read More…
Best Life Online
12 Things That Men Should Always Do After Sex
We know what to do before sex. And we know what to do during sex. But what about after sex? Yes, just like the secrets to being pre-coitally charming—and knowing exactly what moves and when to pull in the middle of things—the moments after sex are just as important. In fact, according to women and sex experts that we spoke with, most men overlook practicalities, opportunities for connection, and unmet…needs. Read More…
iHeart Radio
Keeping it Sexy….Sex Therapy
Sex is always a hot topic and on this show we will learn more about elevating our intimacy! Tune in as we talk about Sex… with Sex Therapist, Kristen Lilla, LCSW. This show is broadcast live on W4CY Radio – (www.w4cy.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (http://www.talk4radio.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (http://www.talk4media.com/). Read More…
Best Life Online
The 11 Things Men Should Never (Ever) Do After Sex
There’s oodles of information about what we can do to increase the chances of sex happening, and countless more advice columns and help articles about how best to comport ourselves during the act itself. Interestingly, though, there’s not much serviceable information about what guys ought to do after sex…Read More…
The Reader
Sexperts: Kristen Lilla
Interview with Kristen Lilla, MSW, LCSW, CST, one of only four certified sex therapists in Nebraska. Lilla is in private practice at Omaha Sex Therapy, where she provides therapy services to both individuals and couples…Read More…
Bustle
5 Reasons Feminism Must Address Ableism
Lately, feminists have been calling attention to the need for intersectional feminism — a form of feminism that considers how women of color, LGBT women, and other marginalized groups might experience sexism differently from how a straight, white, cisgender woman would….Read More…